Is there more "evil" than "good" in the world?

I don’t know if I should call it bad luck or fate or something is wrong with me; life has bumped me more than enough with people or so-called friends who turned to be true hypocrites and perfect pretenders that they can’t cease to perceive their own deception, people who lie with sincerity. Sometimes I say to myself I just have to learn to forget about people who forget about me and that not everyone in life is going to stay true, yet it’s not easy to pass it without holding bitter feelings, it’s the worst feeling in the world knowing you are used or lied to. Unfortunately, most people nowadays find it hard to learn how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things. I found out that many people hate with honestly and feel good about themselves and their lives only when they lie, but when I shared my true actions and feelings with theirs that’s when I watched how they faded away and eventually unveiled how fake they are. Fake people are only nice when it's convenient for them, while genuinely nice people go out of their way to help others and then they are called naïve or even stupid! Although many people unexpectedly turned their backs on me, that shall never stoop me down to their level, I know I will be alright as long as I remember to always be myself and get on with my life. I've been walked on, used and forgotten and I don't regret one moment of it because in those moments, I've learned a lot. I've learned who I can trust and can't. I've learned the meaning of friendship. I've learned how to tell when people are lying and when they're sincere. I've also been to hell and back a few times, and I won't ever take what I have for granted. Life is too short to wake up with regrets. I love the people who treat me right, I forget about the ones who don't and I believe things happen for a reason and if it was meant to be It wouldn’t have happened, a reason that can ultimately change my whole life with a better off one. Many people touched my life in different ways; some came just for a while, others stayed there for a season and then left, but I still don’t know who would stay there forever to be finally the ones that count in my life. No matter what happens, I'm going to make it, because I have the greatest mother and siblings one can ever dream to have in life, with them I found the brightest hope and the greatest advice and guidance, and for that I thank Allah.

A very big part of my life is filled with huge amount of sadness and I don’t know when it will be all gone. I'm not happy, I won’t fake it, but I will deal with it, for I've been through backstabbers, scumbags and lies. I got a whole list of different types of bad people I met in my life. Well, nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it. I will have to live it one day at a time, and because I never know how many days I’ve got left I will never give up on kindness, because I truly believe NO act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted; this is me surviving against the evil and pain in my life. 

For some people there is more evil than good to life, and for others more good than evil;  I believe that life is a combination of evil, good, folly, and wisdom.  

Sometimes I feel most of my life is only about pain and evil and I always expect it to be there, because I honestly can’t remember a time in my life when it wasn’t. But then I say to myself ‘’Al- Hamdul Li Allah’’ for everything, there are others whose life is much worse than mine. One day I will feel something else. Something that feels wrong only because it’s so unfamiliar, and in that moment I will realize I am happy. 

''If you make intense supplication and the timing of the answer is delayed, do not despair of it. Allah reply to you is guaranteed; but in the way Allah chooses, not the way you choose, and at the moment Allah desires, not the moment you desire.''

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"A calamity that makes you turn to Allah is better for you than a blessing which makes you forget the remembrance of Allah."  

-Shaykh Ibn Taymiyyah- 

Written on 11/9/2011

by Nafissa Abdul Salam Mohammed Othman Assed.
( نفيسة عبد السلام محمد عثمان الصيد)

Life is too short

We live in a life that is full of wars, hate, selfishness, Insincerity, and many other hundreds if not thousands torments that tend to make our life even worse than it is

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We live in a life that makes us an easy prey to evil, a life that tempts to lure us into sins in the easiest kind of way. But make us ponder carefully to act in the right and behave in an acceptable way.

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We live in a life in which a person tends to show you feelings, sorrows, and actions that are nothing but masquerades

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We live in a life in which people’s actions don’t reflect their inward nature

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 We live in a life that is greatly full of such appalling behaviors, thoughts and enviousness; but contains little of kindness, peace and love

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We live in a life where people outbid each other easily for silly, expensive, and unnecessary stuff, but think twice before providing some money to wars children, poor, or disabled people who are really in a grave need of help

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Dear Readers, I still have a big hope that many of us can struggle to live a life that makes it COUNTS with more good deeds & manners and less enmity, misery & deception before it comes to an END, for it’s already too short for crap; too short to tolerate bullies, abusers, and liars; too short to put up with people who claim to be something good when they really aren’t; & too short to stop trying to have fun and enjoy it in a decent way, for when you sit down and count the reasons for not going all-out to enjoy such a life you’ll be amazed at how completely silly they are. Let's Thank Allah for what we have and Trust Allah for what we need.

GOD BLESS.

Written on 12/01/2009

by Nafissa Abdul Salam Mohammed Othman Assed.
( نفيسة عبد السلام محمد عثمان الصيد)

The Paradox Of Our Life

We have bigger houses but smaller families

More conveniences, but less time

We have more degrees, but less sense

More knowledge, but less judgment

More experts, but more problems

More medicines, but less healthiness

We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor

We built more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication

We have become long on quantity, but short on quality

These are times of fast foods but slow digestion

Tall man but short character

Steep profits but shallow relationships

It's a time when there is much in the window, but nothing in the room.

Remember that Allah did not promise days without pain,
Laughter without sorrow; sun without rain. But He did promise strength for the day, Comfort for the tears; and light for our way

And remember nothing in the nature lives for itself. Rivers don't drink their own water. Trees don't eat their own fruit. Sun doesn't give heat for itself. Flowers don't spread fragrance for themselves. Living for others, is the rule of Nature

We have one life; it soon will be past; what we do for God is all that will last.

GOD BLESSES.

NAFISSA ASSED

نفيسة عبد السلام محمد عثمان الصيد

 

Thoughtful Traits, Qualities, & Behaviors to be Remembered...

- As children we were encouraged to tell the truth, but as we grew older, we realized that not everybody tends to say or give importance to saying the truth and that some people lie persistently. Is it important that we speak the truth? To my mind, it is very important; no matter how ugly it is, after all it won’t be uglier than something fake or a lie.

-Never, Never let someone innocently unaware to love & treat you as a book of their life while you treat them as a chapter of your life …That’s called ‘’ A Slow Killing of Feelings & Soul ’’.

-Don't go for the looks, it can be quite deceiving. Don't go for wealth even that fades away -- go for someone who makes you smile because only a smile makes a dark day seem bright. Hope you find that person.

- I’ll be always doing great as long as I’m Kind, because No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted, & there is no wisdom to be found greater than Kindness.

- For me, being open-minded is being flexible and adaptable to everything without adopting it, dealing with things positively yet sticking to your Beliefs, Traditions, Values, Principles and most of all Religion to end up developing a positive, nurture and unique personal brand.

- Be Mindful that you can feel really Beautiful/Handsome only when you're able to lay your head on the pillow at night, & can say "I was a decent person today", that's when you Really Feel beautiful or Handsome.

-Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength

-Those type of Swindlers and Con-artist people who always have that thought they are Clever and Tactful minds end up discovering they were having an empty big hole in their heads.

-There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do.

-To let any kind of a relationship die away by negligence and silence is certainly not wise.

-Regret for wasted time is more wasted time.

-Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.

-The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we're afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we'll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy.

-What we love to do we find time to do.

-Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.

-Your reputation is in the hands of others. That's what a reputation is, you can't control that. The only thing you can control is your character.

-Happiness can be defined as the sacrifice of what we want now for what we want eventually.

-Life is very interesting. In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.

-The voyage of discovery lies not in seeking new horizons, but in seeing
with new eyes.

-Do not bite at the bait of pleasure, till you know there is no hook beneath it.

-The easiest kind of relationship for me is with ten thousand people. The hardest is with one.

-Wars teach us not to love our enemies, but to hate our allies.

-Every dictator is an enemy of freedom, an opponent of law.

-A dictator must fool all the people all the time and there's only one way to do that, he must also fool himself


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----I have always believed & lingered to some, ignored some, unaware some even existed, as well as making fun of some of these sayings, and couldn't make them be real in my life. However, through what I’ve been facing this year and what I shall see till the rest of my life I will always believe and stick to these quotes and get to know new others because I’ve come to realize that they're more than just sayings. In fact, they reflect the reality of our life -----

Good Luck To everybody

I've Learned...

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words, it may be the last time you talk them.


 I've learned that we don't have to change friends, if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that something that you do in an instant, can give you heartache for life.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude, or it controls you.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and still have a good time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down, will be the one who helps you get up.

I've learned that sometimes when I am angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them too, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you learned from them and less to do with how many years you have lived.

I've learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others, but sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that just because two people argue, doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret, it may change your life forever.

I've learned that sometimes the people that you love most in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that you can't make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved, and the rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much i care, some people just don’t care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and just seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in life, but who you have that counts.

I've learned that you can keep going, long after you think you can't.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that even when you feel you have no more to give, a friend cries out and you find the strength to help.

I've learned that our backgrounds and circumstances may have influenced our lives, but we are responsible for who we become.

Try, reach, want, and you may fall. But even if you do, you might be okay anyway. If you don't try, you save nothing, because you might as well be dead.